Welcome to SDD and welcome to the world of 6.4's! This is my first diesel, and I was really disappointed in the mileage also (considering that everyone else in my family is getting 20-22 mpg with their diesels!). I drive mine really slow an' easy and still can only SQUEEEEZE about 15-16 mpg on a good day. As far as I know, there's not really much we can do about it unless you get rid of that DPF, straight-pipe it, and get a programmer with an economy setting (and then you'll be voiding your warranty unless you can find a mod-friendly stealership). I had to park her at home last summer and ride with my wife when fuel was touching $5/gallon. If fuel starts to climb again THIS summer (which I'm sure it will), she'll be parked again soon.
I know this doesn't give you any answers, but at least you'll know you're not alone!