More Girl Problems???

[Got Diesel]

Ok here is the dilema this week. Julie's last day of school was thurs the 11th. Our 10 month anniversary is today the 12th. Okay here is the deal, she wanted to have girls night, a few of the girls from her class, wanted to go out and eat, then go back to their spare house, and watch movies, have strawberry daquiris and all that jazz. I say ok, no problem go have fun. So I call her a little bit ago and am asking her how everything is going, and who all's there. She said it was the girls plus four senior boys have stopped by to hang out. I'm not really a jealous guy, slightly yes, but not crazy, or close to it. Do I have a right to be mad at all about this? I let her go out and have fun with the girls, don't take her out for our anniversary, don't get to see her, nothing. When talking to her I ask her if I she wants me to come up there? She says well it's all seniors so prolly not. Should I say oh well, or do I have a right to be a little mad at this? She said girls night, not just senior night. Just a little confused. You ask do I trust her, the answer is yes I do. I even took flowers to school today for her, thought it would be nice because of the last day of school, and our anniversary. Just wondering what you all think. Thanks. Kyle

 

[94f450sd]

well considering it was supposed to be a "girls night" with some drinkin id be a little bit upset over the fact that there are guys there.

 

[Got Diesel]

Kinda what I was thinking. Next question, how do I bring this one up, without seeming like the bad guy? Cause if I say anything then I will get the it's my senior year and I only get to go thru this once, speech. So how do I say something and not cause I big fight?

 

[hheynow]

Ok here is the dilema this week. Julie's last day of school was thurs the 11th. Our 10 month anniversary is today the 12th. Okay here is the deal, she wanted to have girls night, a few of the girls from her class, wanted to go out and eat, then go back to their spare house, and watch movies, have strawberry daquiris and all that jazz. I say ok, no problem go have fun. GOOD MOVE So I call her a little bit ago and am asking her how everything is going, and who all's there. She said it was the girls plus four senior boys have stopped by to hang out. I'm not really a jealous guy, slightly yes, but not crazy, or close to it. Do I have a right to be mad at all about this? No, classmates have a strong bond. I let her go out and have fun with the girls, don't take her out for our anniversary, don't get to see her, nothing. When talking to her I ask her if I she wants me to come up there? She says well it's all seniors so prolly not. You would have been an outsider Should I say oh well, or do I have a right to be a little mad at this? No! She said girls night, not just senior night. Just a little confused. You ask do I trust her, the answer is yes I do. Good answer I even took flowers to school today for her, thought it would be nice because of the last day of school, and our anniversary. Great move! Just wondering what you all think. Thanks. Kyle
Give her some space to be with her classmates. Think hard how you'd like her to react if the situation was exactly backwards. Jealousy gets you nowhere

 

[WD40]

I second what Rich said. She is leading you on a trail of little white lies. Ten mo together, that should be a special day in any ones book. Young Love is tuff, and you get your heart broke a lot. Dump her. If she is worth it, and cares about you like you care about her she will get her act together. I don't like people who lie about things. She didn't want you to come over because they were all seniors. Someone quick run up the BS Flag.
You got a right to be mad & hurt-mad -mad

 

[F350DRW1]

O.K., I've got the B.S. flag waving high and proud. This is what my dearly departed dad would call a "S--t sandwich, minus the bread" Disappear for a few days with the guys on a nice fishing trip. Let us know how this pans out. -popcorn

 

[jimmypage]

tell you are having a guys night and do the same thing and if so reacts to it then it opens your self up for that conversation her story just doesnt seam quit right

 

[Got Diesel]

Thanks fella's for the advice. Ya I am more dissapointed than anything. It just hurts alot. I don't think that I would have been an outsider, being as I have met most of the people in her class. My biggest problem now is bringing it up to talk about. If I say anything about it she will get all pissed off at me. This morning she calls me and asks me if I wanted to come up around noon, and we could go out to eat or something like that. Trying to figure out if I want to do that one or not.

 

[Tx_Atty]

I think you need to stop worrying about being the bad guy and just lay it all out for her. She appears to be more concerned with her own feelings and not so much yours. You can do it tactfully but you need to do it. If you dont stand up for yourself she will just continue to use you as a door mat and you will never have any control.

Think ahead of time about what and how you want to say it but if you wont communicate honestly and openly with her then you are in a losing situation. You might be able to live like this for awhile but noone can do it forever.

 

[Fine69]

Tell her you can't come up, your going out with your buddies, then disappear for the weekend.