ok found the glow plug relay it was moved to on top of the engine. i did the jumper wire from the battery and was getting it to click. when it was hooked up to the battery i didn't get the wait to start light in the dash.
after taking off the jumper wire the wait to start light would come back on and go out after awhile. so is that a sign the relays still good and just the glow plugs are bad since i haven't been able to test those yet.