Tail_Gunner
CRJ & ERJ A&P Mech.
My older daughter has been living with a guy for about 3 years now. As a result of that relationship, we have been blessed with the sweetest little grandson anybody could ask for.
The boyfriend, however, has seemed to be quite a bum. He seems like he is more intent on minimally paying self employment schemes vs holding down a regular job. In the last year and a half, he has had more jobs than I have had in my entire life. They have had one of his kids, a 15 year old girl, from a previous marriage living with them. But considering his inconsistant earnings, I think my daughter has been supporting her more than he has. We have tolerated him up till now, but that all changed this past weekend.
On Sunday apparently he got into an arguement with his 15 year old where he ended up striking her. My daughter, who has been pretty much a surogate mother, attempted to intervene. At that point, he grabbed my daugther by the throat, choking her and put her up against the wall. She kneed him in the "you know whats". He grabbed a bunch of clothes and left in their motor home.
Our daughter called us, in tears, asking what to do. I told her to call the cops, which she was reluctant to do. But I told her if she didn't call, I was going to do it. The cops came over and ended up putting out a warrant for him. It seems domestic violence in Wisconsin is an automatic jail arrest. They found him Monday sleeping in the camper in a parking lot about 30 minutes away, placing him under arrest.
Since then we have found out that he has been without a driver's license for quite a while, he lost it due to a DUI. We also found out he has a warrant in MI for non-payment of child support to his ex for the same child that was living with them.
As a result of all of this, my daughter will have to sell her house. She was having trouble trying to make payments as it was with his inconsistant income. Now that's gone, there's no way she can pay all the bills. We just tapped into our home equity for a couple of house payments for her.
I guess I'm in a quandary as to what to do. Do I shoot him for attacking my little girl? Do I have a talk with him, and then make sure he falls down a flight of stairs, several times? Do I break his knee caps with a baseball bat? I don't feel like there is anything the legal system will be able or willing to do that will be sufficiant punishment for threatening my daughter's well being.
So like the thread title says, what would you do?
The boyfriend, however, has seemed to be quite a bum. He seems like he is more intent on minimally paying self employment schemes vs holding down a regular job. In the last year and a half, he has had more jobs than I have had in my entire life. They have had one of his kids, a 15 year old girl, from a previous marriage living with them. But considering his inconsistant earnings, I think my daughter has been supporting her more than he has. We have tolerated him up till now, but that all changed this past weekend.
On Sunday apparently he got into an arguement with his 15 year old where he ended up striking her. My daughter, who has been pretty much a surogate mother, attempted to intervene. At that point, he grabbed my daugther by the throat, choking her and put her up against the wall. She kneed him in the "you know whats". He grabbed a bunch of clothes and left in their motor home.
Our daughter called us, in tears, asking what to do. I told her to call the cops, which she was reluctant to do. But I told her if she didn't call, I was going to do it. The cops came over and ended up putting out a warrant for him. It seems domestic violence in Wisconsin is an automatic jail arrest. They found him Monday sleeping in the camper in a parking lot about 30 minutes away, placing him under arrest.
Since then we have found out that he has been without a driver's license for quite a while, he lost it due to a DUI. We also found out he has a warrant in MI for non-payment of child support to his ex for the same child that was living with them.
As a result of all of this, my daughter will have to sell her house. She was having trouble trying to make payments as it was with his inconsistant income. Now that's gone, there's no way she can pay all the bills. We just tapped into our home equity for a couple of house payments for her.
I guess I'm in a quandary as to what to do. Do I shoot him for attacking my little girl? Do I have a talk with him, and then make sure he falls down a flight of stairs, several times? Do I break his knee caps with a baseball bat? I don't feel like there is anything the legal system will be able or willing to do that will be sufficiant punishment for threatening my daughter's well being.
So like the thread title says, what would you do?
